authenticity in the cacophony

I used to think that being “too busy to blog” was just an excuse. Now I know that’s not the case. I am three weeks into my digital communications program and though Iโ€™m having fun and learning a ton, blogging has been on the back burner. And I have missed it!

Ironically, one of the things we’ve learned is the importance of blogging regularly and frequently, posting on a consistent schedule. Strike One for Aleya! ๐Ÿ™‚

one of my class projects...making a video!

one of my class projects…making a video! (photo: colleen myers)

There is so much about the digital world that fascinates me. When I started blogging, I had no idea the amount of friends I would make, or that I would physically meet up with awesome galpal bloggers in both Europe and LA!

But being so immersed in social media also makesย me see that much of it is just…noise. And that the deeper I get into this world, the more hours and energy I could waste mindlessly sifting through its cacophony.

This brings me back to something Iโ€™ve written about several times: the importance of authenticity. Finding one’s own voice amongst the inner and outer din. And using that voice responsibly and with integrity.

This means asking myself why I want to blog in the first place, and what my intentions are with social media in general. Why am I (sorta) enjoying Twitter, loving Instagram, and digging Hootsuite? What am I ultimately using these platforms for?

Okay, maybe Iโ€™m over-thinking it. But being in a program where Iโ€™m required to social network has forced me to really examine what I want to doย with all this knowledge Iโ€™m gaining.

Within digital communications, there’s so much emphasis on gathering ‘likes’ and ‘follows’ and ‘traffic’. But for what purpose? Does the content honour the readers, add value to their lives? (Iโ€™m channeling my inner Seth Godin here.) Or are we getting caught up in the game of numbers?

I believe it all comes down to my core values, and how I can best use technology to express those values.

I want what Iโ€™m learning to be a force for Good. Expansion. Love. Truth. Authenticity.

Iโ€™m writing to connect. To express my uniqueness, and to learn more about your uniqueness, and to know that none of us is ‘specialโ€™ in our uniqueness. Iโ€™m social media’ing to exchange ideas and information, to understand the world more, and to move from ego into a new way of being, living, and loving.

Iโ€™m writing to share all the joys and challenges on the way there. To find all youย points of light around the world, because connecting to your light strengthens my own.

I can find time for that. ๐Ÿ˜‰


50 thoughts on “authenticity in the cacophony

  1. Wonderful post!!!
    You have raised some very vital questions on the proliferation of social media and we getting lost in that cacophony…
    It has happened so rapidly and that too in such a short span of time, we have got unknowingly drawn to it, without having the time and revolution and it’s invasion has been razor sharp, we are fix should we love it or hate it…one thing is clear anything excessive is bad and perhaps we are getting swayed by it and losing the right balance…
    Every technology has two sides to it and it is for us to play that balancing act and ensure that the use should get into overuse then we start complaining about the bad side of the product…and it is not an easy task at all..
    Blogging is a wonderful platform to express and to share what we know and learn from others, we have to keep the likes, follow, traffic away then we cherish the true value of the tool…


    • thanks so much! yes, this digital world has crept up on humanity so fast, we really haven’t had much time to assimilate it. i am a huge fan of technology – i love the sharing that can happen in an instant, to someone on the other side of the world! – but much of the time i do feel unbalanced. lately i’ve been feeling the need to unplug for a couple of weeks, go somewhere in nature, and have no access to electronics whatsoever! ๐Ÿ™‚ ultimately i think the connections technology has enabled, particularly thru blogging, is truly amazing and i’m very grateful for the world it’s opened up. thank you for reading and commenting! aleya

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  2. digging your blog, out look, feelings and overall sentiments. everything blends and it feels so good to the mind and the soul. appreciate the way you bring so much together, peace


  3. I am sorry I have not been a great blogger lately but I just do not have the time. I miss reading and replying on my wonderful friends blogs. Like you sister girl. I started blogging by accident and when I published I had no idea there was instantly readers, and it just grew and expanded. I met and made friends, like you, (All of you friends out there.) Why build a social network? To market a product or service, to get your writing seen, to make friends!


    • you’re always a great blogger! and i know just how you feel. when i was at work it seemed i had all the time in the world to blog and then – things changed lol. blogging does take time, well beyond just writing and publishing. but that’s why i love it, for all the sharing and connections. i’m hoping now that school’s done i’ll have more time, but next up is my practicum! have a wonderful day my dear. โค aleya


    • wow thank you so much for this award! that is really lovely! however i made the decision a while back not to accept awards on my blog. i used to have a little blurb about it and i took it down, only to forget to put it back up. i really appreciate your nomination though. thanks again, aleya


  4. my dear, every time I read one of your posts I remember why we are friends and why I adore you so much. I’ve been blogging for four years now and have asked myself more than a few times why I’m doing this. Over and over again my answer is it’s the connections. Sharing a bit of ourselves and meeting others with similar interests. Learning from others and gaining new perspectives. I like other social media too but blogging brings me back again and again in a positive way.


    • marguerite! i always love hearing from you. i so agree with you…i’ve been exposed to so many different social media channels in these past few weeks, but it’s blogging i’m most connected to…for the connections. i’m so looking forward to having more time to devote to it; not just in writing but in reading others’ posts. actually, i’m going to visit yours right now. ๐Ÿ˜‰ lots of โค from the west coast, aleya


  5. I love seeing pictures of you ha ha post more! You look like you’re having so much fun and I’m in awe of the exciting twists and turns your life is taking (you are creating :). Cacophony – isn’t there just! I have to create spaces for myself away from it all to come back to myself, to not drown out my own voice…I listened to this seminar on women’s evolving empowerment on yesterday. It made me think of you and the things you been doing. Big love xxx


    • aw thank you sophie…i love that! i ๐Ÿ™‚ i’ll have to check out that website. i am having fun but really feeling that cacophony lately. sometimes i miss those relaxing old days of my job – haha. but then i get great reminders from my blogging pals. and it helps. โค aleya


  6. You are a lady after my own heart. authenticity is so important and I think undervalued in general. But I have a feeling that’s about to change… I admire your commitment to yourself as you learn more about social media. I do Twitter, but only the very basics. I don’t do instagram or tumblr, and what is Hootsuite? I am so glad that you are still blogging as you are a central part of my bloggette sisterhood ๐Ÿ™‚ I came here initially just to see if I still love writing, and this portal opened me up in ways I could never imagine, but my soul must have been briefed beforehand ๐Ÿ™‚

    love and light and lots of joy to you,



    • oh i don’t think i could stop blogging for too too long…it’s become a very important way of connecting to others. ๐Ÿ™‚

      hootsuite is a program that integrates lots of different social media platforms into one – ie on one screen, i can see all my wordpress, FB, twitter, etc notifications instead of having several different screens/programs open. not sure if that makes sense! lol โค aleya

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  7. I love this! I love your reason for blogging and being involved with social media- to connect. I love your authenticity and how huge this is for you. Keep enjoying your class and keep blogging. I love to read your posts!


  8. You are in my head, lady!!! It is such a trick to pull off social media from a spiritual perspective. “And using that voice responsibly and with integrity.” – exactly!

    Thank you for your post here – it pulls me back to center in more ways than you can imagine. I am working on this in my own life, too. Switching to a self hosted site is a much bigger challenge than I thought, friend. It’s so important to have a clear idea of why we do what we do because otherwise we can get derailed so freakin fast.

    The wild media world is blessed with your light, dear one. THANK GOD! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

    Big love, BIG love, you know it ~ Allison xoxox


    • allison, i love being in your head, it’s sooo fascinating in there!! hehe. i have also had thoughts of switching to self-hosting but haven’t made that move. i can imagine it has its challenges! ultimately, i think self-hosted is the way to do it, and i’ll probably do that for my next website which’ll be more business-y.

      you go girl! it is so exciting to follow your changes. you keep me pumped up! ๐Ÿ™‚ big <3, aleya

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  9. Cacophony indeed haha ๐Ÿ™‚ Just like the endless ramblings of the human ego mind…
    But I never felt that with you Aleya, you are always very authentic in the blogging world! And in person ๐Ÿ˜‰ And you are fun – luv that photo of u<3
    I am really glad you are not getting caught up in the numbers game, just keep listening to your own voice and be aware of your priorities. They sure will have an impact on how important everything you are learning now will be in the future. For your future ๐Ÿ™‚ .
    I really suck at following any sound advice on successful blogging. Mind you some of my best friends are in the web business, always full of ideascand recommendations. And I drive them nuts haha . Guess we are inhabiting different worlds in that way, and maybe have a slightly different idea of what success is…
    Luv and support everything that you are doing xox


    • i love your blog, it is beautiful and insightful. i just don’t understand how blogging rules could apply to everyone! you’re in a different timezone than me, so what difference does it make what time i post? hehe. yes i am trying to keep my priorities in mind, and just writing this post gave me clarity. because it is a thrill to make these new connections. i’m turned off by the over-emphasis on numbers but numbers themselves aren’t bad, if there is a purpose for it!

      you’ve told me before that i am fun, and i just love that. โค guess what, you're fun too! xoxo aleya


  10. Hey Aleya,

    I hope Autumn finds you in excellent health and joyous in happiness, with a smile as big as the one you’re wearing in the photo above.

    I had to read back a little way to pick up on all of the changes that have swept through your life in recent weeks like an elemental force of nature! My, my, Aleya, you have been incredibly decisive and determined! I sit in admiration of you, and others like you here on WP, for having the courage to act upon your convictions, and for holding on to that vision with tenacity, enthusiasm, and dedication. It is impressive, and deserves to be rewarded with all future success, least of all for the sacrifice and compromises that will be asked of you whilst you study, and to which end I hope you receive the support and guidance you require to enable your vision to unfold in the manner you had hoped. This of course includes the newly polished family relationships that have been substantiated through love, compassion and honesty recently: I trust that such love will continue to nourish and nurture you through this period of transition and change. Firm foundations are essential when reconstructing one’s shiny new temple, but of course you already knew all of this and approached the whole matter with sensitivity and purpose, and in the process cleared the fertile ground beneath you to plant the seeds of your future. I am fascinated to hear how you are getting on, and very much hope you’ll find both the chance and the motivation to write. But either way, sincere best wishes for success in all ways.

    I remember quite distinctly reading your post on ‘finding a voice’: in fact I remember reading your first thoughts on the writing class you undertook many months ago, which to my mind was your moment of truth and personal liberation! It was the moment when you committed a mark to paper and expressed yourself to the world in your own voice. What a great moment to remember…one you will look back upon in years to come and identify as one of the moments that changed the course of your life. And whilst the final outcome of this on-going process has yet to be fully realised, the uprush and outpouring of energy carrying you forward is palpable. It is a force of will that will never leave you now that it has been found, and an energy that you can rely upon repeatedly throughout your studies (and beyond!). In addition, I cannot be the only reader of your blog who has seen your voice grow in confidence to enable you to express the essence of your thoughts with clarity and conviction…and always with a slight tongue in cheek humour…it is what makes your blog so appealing.

    I believe you are right to determine the nature and purpose of your approach to social media in advance of using it as a platform for transmitting thought. It does all seem rather cluttered and repetitious out there, and sometimes it can be tedious trawling through listings in search of fact. You make the point that authenticity in an author’s work is as much about honesty and integrity as it is about style and content…and I agree, there must be a clear purpose in writing, a clear intention to add value to the mix and elevate the quality of what is already available in the mainstream, and a clear vision of where one’s work and material is heading. I am however, always so fascinated by the breadth and depth of writing to be found online, and always in awe of the vast, unbounded imagination from which it is spawned. Personally, I wouldn’t want the WWW to become anything other than an organically growing entity that continues to be the single largest expression of the nature of the human condition ever assimilated. It is in essence, no more and no less than a reflection of global human culture in its myriad forms and the most accurate snapshot of what is means to be human and living on Earth in the 21st century. It is breath-taking.

    Anyway, many thanks for letting me park-off here a while and catch up with aspects of your life. As always, it’s a pleasure to stop by and say ‘hey!’. Good luck and sincere best wishes with all your endeavours…i’ll be back and forth every now and again and hope to read more of your adventure.

    Take care.


    DN – 07/10/2014


    • dewin, it is great to hear from you and i so appreciate the time you have taken to read my previous posts…and to compose such a thoughtful and insightful comment.

      life really has been a whirlwind lately and i’ve not had much time to pause for reflection. i finished my job and began school immediately after, and the pace has been fast since that day. your words here have helped me see just how much has happened in the past few weeks (and months! ohh yes of course, that creative writing class!), and i am feeling quite blessed for all of it (especially the improved relationships with my family). i’ve been pushed out of my comfort zone on several fronts, and that continues. but the results are totally worth it. ๐Ÿ™‚

      i love your interpretation of what the www represents in these times – “an organically growing entity that continues to be the single largest expression of the nature of the human condition ever assimilated” – and that’s something i think about quite a bit. how freaking cool is that!? it’s so bizarre that this internet did not even exist (for most of us) 20 years ago…it blows my mind!

      thank you again for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. it’s an honour to have fellow bloggers follow my journey and offer their perspective and support. i wish you all the best! namaste, aleya


      • Aleya, thank you for always responding with such a charming reply.

        I must admit that having been through university twice, I know a little of the great happiness you have found in surrendering to momentum and progress and the demands that that commitment and passion imposes. It is a bit of a rollercoaster ride at times, but well worth the ticket price in the end, photo included. The entertainment and delight of leaning continues with the thrill of the chase as you pursue your ultimate goals with relish, and extends even beyond that to become the inertia for bigger and bigger plans…how fascinating is it to consider that broadcasting to the entire world really is all but ‘one’ mouse click away!

        You sound so wonderfully content, and that is a joyous thing. Long may it continue.


        DN – 08/10/2014


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